Suicide- An inappropriate way of avoiding pain.

Suicide is the act of purposely ending one’s own life. According to the World Health Organization close to 800 000 people die due to suicide every year, which is one person every 40 seconds. Many more attempt suicide. Suicide occurs throughout the lifespan and is the second leading cause of death among 15-29 years old globally.

A 32-year-old female banker attached to one of the new generation banks along market road, Ughelli, Delta State, has committed suicide over her husband’s alleged infidelity.

A university admission-seeker simply identified as Loveth has reportedly committed suicide because she was displeased with the 163 mark she garnered in the ongoing Unified Tertiary Matriculation Examination (UTME).

A young man from Delta State whose lover decided to call it quits took the hard way out by committing suicide are recent cases of suicide.

The act of ending one’s life may seem ludicrous to someone who hasn’t experience suicidal thought. Suicidal thought happens when feelings of hopelessness, isolation, or despair become too heavy to bear and the only means of avoiding the pain is to stop living.

Self-mutilation is deliberately hurting oneself without meaning to cause one’s own death. It includes cutting, scratching, burning (with lit matches, cigarettes or hot, sharp objects like knives), carving words or symbols on the skin, hitting or punching, piercing the skin with sharp objects, pulling out hair, persistently picking at or interfering with wound healing

Causes of suicide

1) Depression:- In psychotherapy and psychiatry, it is a state of mind producing serious, long-term lowering of enjoyment of life or inability to visualize a happy future. Genetics, changes in hormone levels, certain medical conditions, stress, grief or difficult life circumstances are factors of depression.

2)Traumatic Experience:- A victim of any form of abuse or any type of traumatic experience are more likely to end up with post-traumatic stress disorder. PSTD is a mental disorder that can develop after a person is exposed to a traumatic event, such as physical abuse, sexual assault, warfare, traffic collisions, or other threats on a person’s life.A person with PTSD is at a higher risk for suicide and intentional self-harm.

3)Bipolar disorder:- It is a brain disorder that causes unusual shifts in mood, energy, activity levels, and the ability to carry out day-to-day tasks. People with this disorder find it difficult to maintain friendship and relationship with people due to their mood swing.

4)Drug and alcohol addiction:- Drug and alcohol are short-term relief of pain and grief. Many people use it to avoid feeling of pain, depression or guilt. The addiction is a disease that affects a person’s brain and behavior and leads to an inability to control the use of a legal or illegal drug or medication. Means of overcoming such addiction may seem futile and suicide can be the only way out.

5)Relationship problem:- People going through breakups, a person in an abusive relationship, betrayal, rejection of lesbians and gays are triggered with the feelings of depression and guilt. The unbearable emotional pain can result to terminating one’s life.

6)Financial problem


8)Losing hope or the will to live

9)Social Isolation


Warning signs

1)Withdrawal and isolation of one’s self from friends and family

2)Drinks alcohol or takes drugs

3)Mood swing


5)Bringing up death or suicide in discussions or in writing

6)Change in weight or appetite

7)Physical changes

8)Lack of interest in previous activities

9)Loss of self-esteem

10)Previous suicide attempts

 Ways of avoiding suicide


1)Put off any suicidal thought

2)Pray to the Almighty and read your holy book

3)Call a trusted friend or family

4)Seek professional help

5)Patiently wait for help

6)Don’t resort to a short-term relief i.e drug and alcohol

7)Have and write a safety plan

8)Be safe and Stay away from triggers.

9)Recognize your warning signs

10)Meet and connect with people

11)Find a support system or group

12)Work on loving yourself and existence


14)Cook and eat healthy food

15)Get enough sleep

16)Indulge in activities you like.

17)Focus on the positives of the past.

18)Set some personal goals

19)Work towards the goals

20)Most importantly believe in yourself.

I’m not in support of suicide cause it actually not good, I mean when faced with difficulties leaving the world is not the best option, have you ever thought about what the world after death looks like and most importantly suicide is a sin. I just don’t get comfortable with how people criticize or belittle people who commit suicide or attempt.

Why not stop being judgemental and reach out to someone who needs help.

To anyone out there suffering from depression and having suicidal thought I want you to know any difficulty you’re facing now is just for a short time embrace the season for through it you’ll find light and your life is worth living. Don’t be a coward face and fight your fear or pain cause you’re strong and loved.


Letter to my unborn child

Dear Minime;

I couldn’t contain my happiness with the news of your arrival, I waited eagerly to feel your moves and enjoyed every bit of pain and joy you used in communicating with me.

Shopping your necessities was fun and my face could tell everyone you’re my first child, my attention was drawn to a lovely pink gown and that was when the question of you being a boy or girl popped up. It came to my senses that I’ve been expecting a child i’d no idea of the sex. I became anxious to know if you are a girl or boy, your complexion, shape of your face, nose, mouth, weight, how beautiful/handsome you were going to be, the names i was going to give you- I would love to call you Morenikeji Natasha(girl) Ayomide Nathan (boy) and most importantly if you are going to be momma’s lookalike.

I wept tears of joy when I first heard you were here and wept more when i saw you on the screen of the monitor for the first time, I really can’t tell how much tears is going to roll down my eyes when I carry you on my hands.

Baby, there will be time of sadness, hatred, loneliness, loss, struggle and of feeling your soul stripped bare but trust me it will shape you into ways you and I can ever imagine and it will also make you stronger. Embrace the season for through it you’ll find a light.

Words are important, actions more powerful. Be true to yourself, chase your dreams, always believe you can achieve whatever your heart desires. Have and surround yourself with friends and loved ones, have a lot of fun cause “Life is too short to worry about anything. You had better enjoy it because the next day promises nothing.” Live a life of no regrets, do not give into fear, even when fear may feel like it will overpower you, do not give in.

Know one thing, I am here. Whatever your troubles, it is not too much. If you can’t face it alone, we can face it together. Whenever you seek inspiration I will try and be your spark. Whenever you seek comfort, my shoulder is yours. If you are lost, whatever wisdom or guidance I have is yours.

My love, mummy pen this in her twenties and doesn’t know what the future holds but she knows no matter how hard or easy, her status(single mum or happily married), how busy she will be or any unpredictable event cause life doesn’t seem to be what she pictured it as. I’m going to protect you, create and spend alot of time with you cause we’ve lot to talk about and learn, lot of fun to catch, teach you the way of the lord and nurture you about tricks of life.

Mama loves you.